The Why
by Kim Flanagan

Why Church my Style? Church my Style was 'born' out of pure frustration.

What I know for sure is, it’s not abut the clothes, it’s about you, the feeling of you. We, as women need to get back to the instinct of feeling “it”, whatever your “it” is. Finding your “it”? Church my Style.

I had the idea of Church my Style when I was heading in for a hysterectomy as I had cervical cancer. I was tired and not feeling “it” or really anything. I was wiped out, and in the closets of other wiped out women and thought to myself, “this is bullshit!”
I wanted a mentor or some release or some something that I was missing. I also wanted to get or give the feeling of “it” back to more than one woman at a time and also back to myself.

I had a fire-starter session with Danielle LaPorte and my “it” was realized again. I gave myself a gift and the gift was me, the real me. Scary, I know, but don’t you want your kids to know their real mommy? Not someone else’s mommy or our perception of perfect wife, perfect mother, perfect friend, perfectly successful, blah blah. Perfect is boring and none of us are perfect, thank god!
I’m grateful to Danielle for igniting the fire that I knew I had, but had burnt out. Danielle confirmed what I knew, but was nervous to do, be the ‘style preacher’. The idea of Church my Style was born.

When I went into the hospital, I started reading Kelly Kutrone’s, “If You Have To Cry, Take It Outside.” (working on bringing her here…) and it confirmed the idea of Church my Style, It was crazy. Crazy awesome. Here’s why: Quote from the book.

“I’m asking you to start the church of you. I want you to refuse to pray or play at places that won’t let you speak or where your gender has no power. Or, fine, if you really have to go to these places, go with the intention of transforming them. I want you to fearlessly pursue your dreams and your destiny, conscious that you are not what you do, listening to your inner voice, refusing to let superficial things define you, asking yourself the hard questions about what you believe and what will serve, fighting the fears in your own mind, and finally, loving other women in the process.”

Whew and Woot! It’s up to us ladies, we need to kick the ass in the world, we have the power, we just need to be reminded. I will remind you, not perfectly, just my style.

I hope to see you at an upcoming Church, my Style for a full brunch and runway fashion show and maybe a little “it” finding. That’s a rocking Sunday!
XKim

NEXT CHURCH EVENT is Sunday Feb. 05 at The Plaza in Kensington
A Screening of Miss Representation - Tickets here CLICK #GIRLPOWER

The best gift you can give yourself and your children is to represent- CLICK for the trailer. There will be a media panel discussion after the film to get this conversation started, join us! Sunday Feb. 05, 2012 and represent.